About James

James Buckley is a certified sexologist, sex & relationship coach and educator specialising in ethical non-monogamy, kink and BDSM. He lectures at the Australian Institute of Sexology and Sexual Medicine, co-founded the Festival of Alternative Relationships, and co-runs The Open Circle, Australia's largest ENM community.

Ethical Non-Monogamy:

Ethical non-monogamy is a form of intimate relationship where the individuals involved have agreed to engage in sexual and/or romantic relationships with more than one person, with the explicit knowledge and consent of all parties involved.

Welcome to Australia’s hub for those exploring alternative relationships, whether new or experienced. We support couples, individuals, polycules and communities living all types of ethical non-monogamy, from polyamory to open relationships. We also offer education and support for those interested in kink, lifestyle D/s, those practicing sex work and those that date sex workers. We are also a place for media outlets, therapists and relationship coaches to get greater support and understanding directly from the communities that are engaging in these practices. Visit our Learn section to find out more.

James Buckley

Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach

I've spent the better part of two decades in and around non-monogamy — living it, thinking about it, and eventually making it my work. Non-Monogamy Co grew out of Australia's hub for ethical non-monogamy and kink, and it's where I bring all of that together: certified training through the Somatic Institute in San Francisco, years of teaching, and a lot of real hours in the room with real people sorting out real relationships.

Book for all things:

  • Non-monogamy: including polyamory, open relationships, swinging, solo poly, relationship anarchy

  • Jealousy management

  • Kink / BDSM

  • Sex workers / those dating sex workers

  • Sex and relationship coaching: attachment issues, unlocking

  • desire, intimacy, performance and dating coaching

For those looking for:

  • Kink / BDSM lessons Sydney or Australia wide (via video consult)

  • A sexologist Sydney

  • Sex and relationship coach Sydney

  • Somatic sexologist Sydney

  • Help with Jealousy in Sydney

Unlock a world of pleasure and exploration with our expert team at Non-Monogamy Co, where we celebrate the different forms of intimacy. Looking to explore your longings with the guidance of an experienced Kink Coach in Sydney? Our accomplished coaches give a safe and judgment-free space to dive into the domains of kink, helping individuals and couples explore their unique paths of pleasure.

For those seeking a more profound understanding and mastery of BDSM practices, our BDSM Coach in Sydney is here to direct you on an excursion of consensual exploration. Our educated BDSM coaches offer customised experiences / workshops that blend with your particular interests and limits, creating an enriching and empowering experience.

Welcome to a space where passion meets expertise. Our sexologists bring an abundance of information and a compassionate way to deal with and address a scope of intimate worries. Whether you're seeking guidance on sexual health, communication, or performance, our Sexologist Sydney services are tailored to meet your individual necessities, promoting a fulfilling and satisfying sex life.

Sex and Relationship Coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, licensed social worker or licensed marriage and family therapist, and I do not offer therapy, psychotherapy or medical advice.

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