Services

Work with me one-on-one, as a couple, or as a whole polycule — online from anywhere in Australia, or in person in Sydney. Sessions are tailored to where you actually are: some people come for three sessions to get through opening up, others build a longer coaching relationship around jealousy, kink or a D/s dynamic. You don't have to know exactly what you need before you book — sorting that out is part of the first session.

Individual

55min session

From $165

Couples

75min first session, then 60min ongoing

From $220 AUD

Triads / Thruples / Polycules / Groups

90min session

Email for pricing

Areas of expertise

  • Opening up and ethical non-monogamy — for individuals and couples

  • Polyamory, and the practicalities of running more than one relationship

  • Jealousy, insecurity and the feelings that surface when things open up

  • Communication, consent and negotiating agreements that hold

  • Rebuilding intimacy and trust after a rupture or a big change

  • Sexual confidence and desire

  • Kink, BDSM and D/s dynamics — explored safely and skilfully

  • Workshops for groups and events, across Australia, on non-monogamy, jealousy and D/s

BDSM / KINK

Unlocking Non-Monogamy

At Non-Monogamy Co, we understand the curiosity, excitement, and concerns that come with exploring non-monogamy. Our groundbreaking course, "Unlocking Non-monogamy," is meticulously designed for couples ready to venture into or enhance their journey in ethical non-monogamy (ENM). Through six comprehensive sessions, we guide you from the initial steps of opening your relationship to managing complex emotions like jealousy, setting boundaries, and building a foundation of trust and security.

"Connected Kink"

A structured six-week program for individuals and couples ready to explore BDSM and kink with confidence. Choose up to three practices from D/s (power exchange), bondage/Shibari, impact play, and role play — then work through them with expert guidance from someone with over a decade of lived experience in the UK and Australian kink scenes. We start with the foundations (safety, consent, communication, aftercare) and build from there. Short on time? The full journey is also available as a single one-day intensive.

Explore a diverse range of intimate connections with Non-Monogamy Co. In the lively heart of Sydney, discover how to create and grow inside of Ds relationships. Our responsibility is to give a guiding hand to those intrigued by the power of Dominance and submission. Whether you're new to the idea or seeking to develop your understanding, our Kink Coaches are here to direct you on an excursion of exploration and connection.

Dive into alternative-sexuality with our Kink workshops in Sydney. Customised for all degrees of curiosity and experience, these workshops offer a special chance to learn, share, and celebrate the joys of kink and fetish. Our inclusive environment encourages a feeling of community, ensuring that everybody feels enabled to explore their desires in a protected and consensual space.

Have a life-changing experience with our specialised Experiential BDSM Coaching in Sydney. Taught over the course of a full day, individuals or couples can dive deep into their desire. Unlock kinks / fetishes. Learn Shibari, flogging, wax play, how to cultivate Dominance or submission and more. Or let us customise an experiential learning experience just for you to learn the things that make you feel most turned on. These days create a space for self-awareness, allowing individuals and couples to explore the intricacies of BDSM in a strong and conscious setting.

Frequently Asked Questions

How many sessions will I need?

Most clients start with a single session and decide from there. Opening up a relationship usually takes somewhere in the range of three to six sessions — enough to get through the hard conversations and out the other side with a plan.

Do you coach all relationship structures?

Yes — couples, triads, thruples, polycules, individuals, and monogamous pairs who are exploring change. No structure is too tidy or too complicated.

Do you run workshops?

Yes. I travel Australia-wide running workshops on non-monogamy, jealousy and D/s for events, festivals and private groups. Email me with what you're after and I'll tell you what's possible.

What is a sexologist, and is James one?

A sexologist is a trained specialist in human sexuality — sexual health, function, behaviour and relationships. Yes, I'm certified through the Somatic Institute in San Francisco. It's why the coaching is grounded in real clinical knowledge, even though the work we do together is coaching, not therapy.

Sex and Relationship Coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, licensed social worker or licensed marriage and family therapist, and I do not offer therapy, psychotherapy or medical advice.

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