About James
James Buckley is a certified sexologist, sex and relationship coach, and educator specializing in ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, jealousy management and kink. He sold out workshops in three countries, co-founded the Festival of Alternative Relationships, and grew ENM communities in the UK and Australia.
Ethical Non-Monogamy:
Ethical non-monogamy is a form of intimate relationship where the individuals involved have agreed to engage in sexual and/or romantic relationships with more than one person, with the explicit knowledge and consent of all parties involved.
James is one of the world's most experienced voices in ethical non-monogamy coaching. Over nearly two decades he's lived it, taught it, and coached people through it. He has coached clients across the United States and Canada, as well as in Australia, Bali, Singapore, the UK and New Zealand.
James Buckley
Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach
James is originally from Australia, has been living in non-monogamous relationships for 18 years and has been a proud member of the kink scene for 12 years. During his time in London he founded the Alternative Relationship Collective (ARC), a curated community of over 150 people who were all practicing various forms of ethical non-monogamy. While in Australia, he was the co-founder of the Festival Of Alternative Relationships (F.A.R.) and The Open Circle, Australia's largest community of people exploring ENM. He has lived experience in almost every form of ENM dynamic and has sold out workshops in ENM and Lifestyle Kink (D/s) in four cities across three countries. He studied sex and relationship coaching at The Somatica Institute of Sex and Relationship Coaching out of San Francisco, where he learnt their unique modality, that is certified by the American Board of Sexologists.
He currently coaches people online from around the world in places like USA, Australia, New Zealand, Indonesia, Singapore and more.
Book for all things:
Non-monogamy: including polyamory, open relationships, swinging, solo poly, relationship anarchy
Jealousy management
Kink / BDSM
Sex workers / those dating sex workers
Sex and relationship coaching: attachment issues, unlocking
desire, intimacy, performance and dating coaching
For those looking for:
Online kink / BDSM coaching for the USA
A sexologist online, serving clients across the US
Sex and relationship coaching in America
Somatic sexologist, available online
Help with jealousy — online coaching for the USA
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